Haunting Habits

Simone Koger, MA, LMFTA, CGP

2022-10-25

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It's time to go.

Some habits that you adopt over time, become harmful to your wellbeing. You might recognize this if you start feeling: uncomfortable, irritated, stuck, unenthused, if you are avoiding people or activities, and don't feel like you are living authentically to yourself. The way you speak to yourself is a great exampe. If you make a mistake, do you criticise youself? Ruminate about what you did? Being self critical can be a learned habit that decreases: self validation, trust, self love, and could lead to holding unhealthy relationships with others.

In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, we look at how these habits are hindering your life, and what it will take to change them. That is the best part though! That we CAN change them, it is just a matter of intention, consistency, and bravey at looking at pieces of yourself that need space to heal & grow.

Do you know what haunts you?

Sometimes it is hard to identify the deeply engraned phrases and narratives you take on over time. That makes sense. Like a wave on a rock, it isn't this voilent change in the rock, but a slow progression of chipping away. Talking to a therapist about some of your self to self conversations can be a helpful way to identify some of the underlying narratives you are hindering yourself with.

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Some questions that might help you find these narratives could be:

  • When you make a mistake, how do you react to yourself?
  • What are some of the "should's" you tell yourself?
  • What is hindering your self confidence?
  • Are there social norms getting in the way of you accepting yourself?

These are just a few of the deepening questions that can lead to more self awareness. Once you have a grasp on the patterns you experience, the next step is towards change.

If you need help finding a therapist to start this process, Contact Simone here or you can check out other platforms such as Psychology Today, Therapy Den, Open Path or Latinx Therapy.

Happy Halloween!